In a world that’s more connected than ever, it’s odd to think we could feel distant from the people who matter most to us. Yet a recent study by Mixbook reveals that nearly half (48%) of Americans wish they had a stronger bond with their moms.
Even with all the texting, calling, and social media posts, forging a truly close connection with Mom can be a challenge. So, what’s standing in the way? In this article, we’ll explore how limiting our tech use might actually create invisible barriers that keep us from nurturing the heartfelt connections we crave.
Are You Close with Your Mother?
Despite living in a hyper-connected world, the dynamics of mother-child relationships in America are nuanced and complex. A majority of people (61%) report being closer to their mom than their dad, with a bond that takes root in childhood (57%), suggesting that mom is more often the emotional anchor in the family. Another 46% see their mom at least once a week, emphasizing the importance of frequent face-to-face time in maintaining these relationships.
It’s clear, however, that not everyone feels as close to their moms as they’d like. In addition to the almost half of us who wish they were closer to Mom than they currently are, a quarter of Americans don’t feel close at all. Clashing personalities, unresolved resentment, and past traumas are among the top reasons for this emotional gap.
How Physical Distance Plays a Part
Life can take us far from the ones we love. Though half of us are lucky enough to live in the same city or even closer to our moms, a big chunk of Americans deal with the obstacle of geographical distance.
For those living far away, technology often becomes our lifeline. But despite its convenience — and the fact that it’s free, unlike a flight home — 61% of us never FaceTime our moms. Maybe a quick text or call feels easier, but for some (15%), the lack of tech-savviness on Mom’s side poses a challenge.
But we’re not always good about doing our part, either. According to the Pew Research Center, a significant 42% of adults see their parents less than once a month.
When we do go home to see Mom, we usually spend time sharing life updates, celebrating holidays and milestones, and sharing our emotions, both positive and negative. Activities like these not only help maintain a close bond, but also offer the warmth and deeper emotional connection that technology alone often struggles to provide.
Regional Trends
Mixbook’s study also uncovers some interesting regional variations. People in Maryland, New Jersey, and Tennessee tend to be the closest with their moms, while Oregon, New Mexico, and Washington residents feel the most emotional distance.
Physical distance might play a role here — people in New Mexico, along with Colorado and Utah, live the furthest away from Mom. Floridians, New Yorkers, and South Carolinians usually live the closest to home, providing more opportunities for in-person visits.
Though family dynamics are unique and individual, it’s also possible that regional social norms around family values could influence how these bonds are formed, or how close they are.
Some Final Thoughts
Whether you’re an ocean away or just down the street, make the most of your time with your mom. A phone call, a video chat, or even a heartfelt text can make a world of difference.
Take a moment to share your life and open up about your joys and challenges. These interactions, no matter how brief, remind us that love can transcend physical distances, no matter how far away you are.
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