Wednesday, March 22, 2023
Account
Write for us
USA Wire
  • News
    • Politics
    • Sports
    • World
  • Business
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Finance
    • Marketing
  • Culture
    • Lifestyle
    • Celebrity
    • Travel
  • Entertainment
    • Gaming
  • Sports
  • Health
    • Food
    • Fitness
  • Crypto
  • Technology
No Result
View All Result
  • News
    • Politics
    • Sports
    • World
  • Business
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Finance
    • Marketing
  • Culture
    • Lifestyle
    • Celebrity
    • Travel
  • Entertainment
    • Gaming
  • Sports
  • Health
    • Food
    • Fitness
  • Crypto
  • Technology
No Result
View All Result
USA Wire
No Result
View All Result
Home News

Why The Game of Perception is a Losing Game for Domestic Violence

USA Wire Staff<span class="bp-verified-badge"></span> by USA Wire Staff
August 5, 2022
in News
Reading Time: 4 mins read
Why The Game of Perception is a Losing Game for Domestic Violence
14
SHARES
98
VIEWS
Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook present a never-ending game of perception: A momentary window into what someone, somewhere allows others to see; the perception we can then interpret the lives of others. Funny, sad, reality, make-believe – only a moment. We have come to believe that by seeing someone’s social media, sitting together at a dinner table, having conversations over drinks, praying together in the church, working side by side 9 to 5, or putting a uniform on together, we know someone. People with whom we spend small pockets of time or who casually slip in and out of our life. The “masks” people wear when they step out of their front door each day can be elusive to all those who believe they know a person – even those with whom they sleep each night.

Years ago, a supervisor once said in a meeting that we spent so much time together in the workweek, we all knew each other more than our families. I heard nothing else in the meeting that morning, thinking we knew nothing about each other. Over the years, I had learned to master the public perceptions and play “the game.” As my husband perfected the art of donning and removing his mask, in turn, I learned how to maneuver life in secrecy, hiding my life in shame, hoping no one could see through the facade. No one could know of the abuse that awaited me when I went home at night. The police calls, protective orders, punched holes in walls (furniture, doors), hidden bruises, DUIs, and so on, were far too real.

For many victims of Domestic Violence, perception becomes a losing game, because we no longer know who is on our team and who is our enemy in “the game.”  The popular myth is that our battles are only in our house.

RecommendedReads

Paws of War helps US Marine reunite with furry friend in America

The Benefits of CBD for Collapsing Trachea in Dogs

Big Bang and Beyond – The Philosophy of Pierre Boucher

WHAT ABOUT REPORTING?

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV)  estimates more than ten million adults experience domestic violence annually. The Department of Defense (DoD) reported ONLY 40,000 incidences of domestic violence from 2015 to 2019 met their “criteria.” A staggering difference in the world of reporting from DoD and Military to civilian DV reports for the United States in total. As victims, we lose awareness, and we see the world around us losing understanding.

WHAT OTHERS NEED TO KNOW

Knowledge is powerful. Knowing what Domestic Violence IS and understanding the long-term effects it carries takes DV from “Not my business” to “What can I do?” Knowing that domestic violence is in every community, and affects all people regardless of age, race, gender, socioeconomics, sexual orientation, religion, or nationality, can help remove the stigma. Domestic Violence affects each generation….and the lasting effects are forever.

It is not only physical abuse. It is also sexual, psychological, financial, and verbal abuse.

DON’T WE HAVE LAWS?

In 1994, Congress passed the Violence Against Women’s Act (VAWA), becoming the steppingstone for domestic violence, dating violence, and sexual assault — making Domestic Violence a crime. Since 1994, legislation that has followed provided enhancement, guidelines, and funding in the United States, until it expired in 2018, leaving programs across the country to falter, and victims and their children to once again question where to turn in need.

In spring 2021, the House introduced, H.B. 1620, Violence Against Women Act Reauthorization Act of 2021, yet as we approach winter 2021the legislative piece sits in the Senate; 3 years after expiration.

The military did not hold Domestic Violence crimes accountable until January 2019 under the Uniformed Military Code of Justice (UCMJ). As of 2021, these crimes still must meet “criteria” and can fall under Commander discretion to proceed.

WHAT CAN YOU DO? If you know someone affected by Domestic Violence: Listen. Be there. Be on their team! Let them know that you are there for them. Contact your state legislators and let them know that no matter whether they are military members or civilians, your loved ones should always have the protection they need.

If you are a victim of Domestic Violence, know you are not alone. Feeling anxious, scared, emotional, numb? These are all normal emotions. Recognizing you are in an abusive relationship and that you need to get out? Be proud of yourself. Seek help and safety.

Here are national agencies to help you on your path:

National Assistance

Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

National Coalition Against
Domestic Violence

1-303-839-1852

It is time for everyone to seek help and urge those in positions of authority to assess existing procedures and question certain long-standing policies.

Lara Sabanosh grew up in various parts of the country and for a time, lived overseas in Guantanamo Bay (GTMO), where she was an education service facilitator at the Fleet and Family Support Center and became acting director in December 2013. She spent much of her adult life as a wife, mother and student, eventually completing two doctoral degrees. Six years in the making, her new book,Caged is an honest and introspective memoir detailing the never-before-told other side of an international, headline story, taking readers through the first twenty years of her tumultuous marriage to Christopher Tur, to events as she lived them on the night he went missing and the aftermath. Sabanosh is currently retired from government service, residing quietly in Pensacola, Florida, surrounded by her loving family, dogs, and grand puppies. For more information see Lara Sabanosh.

Game

Share6Tweet4Share1
Previous Post

Haroon Naseer – A Digital Marketer and Entrepreneur  Says That The key to success is constant learning and self-development.

Next Post

For Music Exec-Entrepreneur Cody Patrick, Success Is Organic

USA Wire Staff<span class="bp-verified-badge"></span>

USA Wire Staff

USA Wire is a millennial-focused news publication that provides content in a way that relates to the modern world. USA Wire strives to provide unbiased and accurate coverage of current events, highlighting both the good and bad.

Related Posts

edit post
dementia
News

Santa Rosa, CA family man with dementia walks out of his home and disappears

March 17, 2023
edit post
Guardians of Rescue
News

Help needed to rescue Loki, dog who inspired hope in U.S. troops – Guardians of Rescue

March 17, 2023
edit post
Commercial Vehicle Accidents
News

Why Commercial Vehicle Accidents Occur: Understanding the Causes

March 16, 2023
Next Post
edit post
For Music Exec-Entrepreneur Cody Patrick, Success Is Organic

For Music Exec-Entrepreneur Cody Patrick, Success Is Organic

edit post
Ways to Get Discount Tickets for WonderWorks Panama City Beach

Ways to Get Discount Tickets for WonderWorks Panama City Beach

edit post
Wellness + Beauty – Morgan Cosmetics’ Pandemic Relief Skincare

Wellness + Beauty - Morgan Cosmetics' Pandemic Relief Skincare

Discussion about this post

Follow us

Recommended

edit post
Finding a Car Accident Attorney to Help You

Finding a Car Accident Attorney to Help You

7 months ago
edit post
DJ Smiles is Next Up

DJ Smiles is Next Up

6 months ago
edit post
risk

Is Walking Alone Enough to lower the risk of disease?

5 months ago
edit post
King Gorilla & T Eazy New Hit Single – “Whippin”

King Gorilla & T Eazy New Hit Single – “Whippin”

5 months ago

Categories

  • Business
  • Celebrity
  • Construction
  • Crypto
  • Culture
  • Electrical
  • Entertainment
  • Entrepreneurship
  • Finance
  • Fitness
  • Food
  • Gaming
  • Health
  • Home Improvement
  • Lifestyle
  • Marketing
  • Medicine
  • Movies
  • Music
  • News
  • Opinion
  • Politics
  • Sports
  • Technology
  • Travel
  • Uncategorized
  • World

Topics

2018 FIFA World Cup (9) 2018 League (12) Alcatraz East (8) America (10) Asian Games 2018 (17) Balinese Culture (10) Bali United (9) book (8) Budget Travel (17) Business (17) celebrity (15) Chopper Bike (11) clothing (8) dadsrc (9) Digital (8) Entrepreneur (10) family (9) Featured (8) fitness (11) food (11) fun (11) future (10) Health (29) healthcare (8) home (16) Idenfy (9) impact (8) Istana Negara (17) life (9) Market Stories (22) museum (8) music (11) National Exam (13) New (9) nightclub (9) pandemic (11) partnership (10) Paws of War (13) performance (10) podcast (11) summer (14) technology (8) tips (16) Visit Bali (16) WonderWorks (19)
USA Wire

© 2021 USA Wire

Navigate Site

  • Write For Us
  • Contact
  • My Account

Follow Us

No Result
View All Result
  • Thought Leader Council
  • Politics
  • News
  • Business
  • Culture
  • Sports
  • Lifestyle
  • Travel

© 2021 USA Wire

Go to mobile version